Zoe’s Ark: Not about adoption

Yet another article making the rounds is attempting the grasping stretch between the Zoe’s Ark fiasco and adoption, and hitting all the right notes with some who sing that tune and have little inclination to expand their repertoire. Written by Lebanese-born adoptee and gay activist and writer Daniel Drennan, it takes a criminal act and [...]

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2007: Not a good year for adoption

As 2007 wraps, organizations from the U.S. Government to the United Nations to every news provider on the planet are collecting data, crunching numbers and trying to find tidy ways to package the year for presentation to the world sometime after the calendar ticks over. Already established and making headlines, the unsurprising revelation that the [...]

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“a dish served cold”

” … a quest is a passion, not a dish served cold like revenge.” Umberto Eco The Mysterious Flame of Queen Loana I’m reading Eco at the moment — “The Mysterious Flame … ” is my upstairs book this week — and the quote above jumped off the page this morning and stuck around for [...]

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A guilty mother’s lament

From one mother to her child in an attempt to explain, assuage and apologize. My Darling Child, You are my most cherished treasure, and the fact that I am better off with you … that the world is better off with you … is a truth beyond measure. No matter that your very existence brings [...]

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The post about Christmas

It may be Christmas night where you are as I write, but here in Seychelles it’s already Boxing Day. Like in the States, Boxing Day is not a legal holiday, so Mark is at work and, fortunately, my housekeeper is beginning to make a dent in the mess the last couple of days have created [...]

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For April: Another mom’s story

See Roni’s blog asking advice for a young girl who is dealing with a crisis pregnancy. This is my contribution. Dear April, I’m fifty-six years old now and living a wonderful life, and one of the great lessons these five-plus decades of moving through the world has taught me is that life always makes sense [...]

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Loss

There’s been a lot of talk here and on other blogs about loss lately, perceptions and definitions of, along with finger-pointing, blame-laying, name calling, anger, resentment … blah, blah, blah … as a downward spiral picked up momentum, but I’ve no stomach for it today. While some mothers have been busy coming up with names [...]

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Birth mothers and unsubstantiated crap

I started this as a reply to another nasty birth mother commenting on yesterday’s blog, but it got too long. I did explain there, however, why I use the term “birth mother”. So … moving right along … “but the thing is, that your attitude towards natural mothers varies somewhere between frequently criticizing us and [...]

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Respect within the triad: Who gets a pass?

Every so often I need to blow off some steam, to vent, to let myself step away from controlled reason and take a swipe at some of those who’ve made a quest out of trying to slap me down and shut me up. Today seems like a good day for it. Anyone who has been [...]

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Comparing loss

The following comment on yesterday’s post has me doing more contemplating on loss, mulling the many ways life deals it out, and pondering the many practices of coping. I think that is why many adoptees feel torn, as if they have to choose to feel either one way or the other, but not both. This [...]

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