Comments on: Perspective on misery http://sandrahanksbenoiton.wordpress.com/2008/05/09/perspective-on-misery/ Views of the world from a tiny island Fri, 18 Jul 2008 22:11:46 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=MU By: Lisa S. http://sandrahanksbenoiton.wordpress.com/2008/05/09/perspective-on-misery/#comment-2293 Lisa S. Sat, 10 May 2008 03:17:05 +0000 http://sandrahanksbenoiton.wordpress.com/?p=303#comment-2293 "Perspective is a good thing. It doesn’t take away pain, but it sure gives it context" - profound and important statement Sandra. With you all the way, Lisa “Perspective is a good thing. It doesn’t take away pain, but it sure gives it context” - profound and important statement Sandra.

With you all the way,
Lisa

]]> By: justenjoyhim http://sandrahanksbenoiton.wordpress.com/2008/05/09/perspective-on-misery/#comment-2291 justenjoyhim Sat, 10 May 2008 01:01:22 +0000 http://sandrahanksbenoiton.wordpress.com/?p=303#comment-2291 Oh, I hadn't seen this either. I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Oh, I hadn’t seen this either. I’m so sorry for what you’re going through.

]]> By: scrapsbynobody http://sandrahanksbenoiton.wordpress.com/2008/05/09/perspective-on-misery/#comment-2290 scrapsbynobody Fri, 09 May 2008 21:11:45 +0000 http://sandrahanksbenoiton.wordpress.com/?p=303#comment-2290 You know it's good to keep perspective about suffering in the world, but it's mighty cold comfort to tell yourself to suck it up since folks are starving somewhere else. Your pain is real, and it doesn't make you a wimp because you don't feel up to taking on any more. The fact is, we all whine. If our troubles are small, or medium sized, or huge ones. People who don't whine to some degree worry me. Sometimes it indicates hopelessness, or giving up the fight. You don't impress me as the hopeless, give up the fight sort. You seem more like the "I've been sucker punched, and I need to catch my breath" kind. So I expect we'll all hear more whining before you're through to the other side. Don't be too hard on yourself. You know it’s good to keep perspective about suffering in the world, but it’s mighty cold comfort to tell yourself to suck it up since folks are starving somewhere else. Your pain is real, and it doesn’t make you a wimp because you don’t feel up to taking on any more. The fact is, we all whine. If our troubles are small, or medium sized, or huge ones. People who don’t whine to some degree worry me. Sometimes it indicates hopelessness, or giving up the fight. You don’t impress me as the hopeless, give up the fight sort. You seem more like the “I’ve been sucker punched, and I need to catch my breath” kind. So I expect we’ll all hear more whining before you’re through to the other side. Don’t be too hard on yourself.

]]> By: Dee Thompson http://sandrahanksbenoiton.wordpress.com/2008/05/09/perspective-on-misery/#comment-2287 Dee Thompson Fri, 09 May 2008 13:00:07 +0000 http://sandrahanksbenoiton.wordpress.com/?p=303#comment-2287 I have a thought - I take 500 mg. of St. John's Wort every morning and at night with dinner. It has really helped keep me calm and saved my sanity through some trying times. It's herbal, no prescription needed. I would be glad to mail you some if you can't get it sent there for some stupid reason. Hang in there! Dee I have a thought - I take 500 mg. of St. John’s Wort every morning and at night with dinner. It has really helped keep me calm and saved my sanity through some trying times. It’s herbal, no prescription needed. I would be glad to mail you some if you can’t get it sent there for some stupid reason.

Hang in there!
Dee

]]> By: bless58 http://sandrahanksbenoiton.wordpress.com/2008/05/09/perspective-on-misery/#comment-2286 bless58 Fri, 09 May 2008 11:22:08 +0000 http://sandrahanksbenoiton.wordpress.com/?p=303#comment-2286 Oh man Sandra, What sleeze. Of course this betrayal would knock you on your rear, it would any woman. It taints everything with mud. There is life after this as you know. I hope this is just a one time short lived betrayal and he gets his mind back. I don't think this man is a habitual cheater like your first husband, if that is a positive thing. He will have to look at the faces of his children and know he has obliterated their family and might even feel guilt and shame. UGH- WHY do some spouses do this and why is there scum out there that set their sights on married people??? (((hugs)))))) Oh man Sandra, What sleeze. Of course this betrayal would knock you on your rear, it would any woman. It taints everything with mud.
There is life after this as you know. I hope this is just a one time short lived betrayal and he gets his mind back. I don’t think this man is a habitual cheater like your first husband, if that is a positive thing. He will have to look at the faces of his children and know he has obliterated their family and might even feel guilt and shame.
UGH- WHY do some spouses do this and why is there scum out there that set their sights on married people???
(((hugs))))))

]]> By: imtina http://sandrahanksbenoiton.wordpress.com/2008/05/09/perspective-on-misery/#comment-2285 imtina Fri, 09 May 2008 06:32:19 +0000 http://sandrahanksbenoiton.wordpress.com/?p=303#comment-2285 Holy crap!! I am not sure how I missed all of these posts, but I'm only reading this today. I am so so so so sorry. And what a stupid wanker! I haven't had this happen to me, but I have been betrayed and I think that what hurts most of all isn't what is happening in the finding out, or dealing with the fallout or preparing for the future, it's the going over all the beautiful memories and realizing that you didn't really know that person at all. The suddenly seeing someone as a stranger is so painful and you aren't deserving of this. Your poor kids too... Crap...I'm not sure what all to say except that it's all just so horrible and disgusting. Also, when he comes groveling back to you ( this time he's on HIS knees) and begging you to take him back, and at some point he WILL do this...you stay strong. Let him fall back into the world he has chosen for himself. It's a world that doesn't include the joy of his family, of spirit or of substance. Your world will be very different. Take strength in that. Again...so sorry. Tina Holy crap!! I am not sure how I missed all of these posts, but I’m only reading this today.

I am so so so so sorry.

And what a stupid wanker!

I haven’t had this happen to me, but I have been betrayed and I think that what hurts most of all isn’t what is happening in the finding out, or dealing with the fallout or preparing for the future, it’s the going over all the beautiful memories and realizing that you didn’t really know that person at all. The suddenly seeing someone as a stranger is so painful and you aren’t deserving of this.

Your poor kids too…

Crap…I’m not sure what all to say except that it’s all just so horrible and disgusting.

Also, when he comes groveling back to you ( this time he’s on HIS knees) and begging you to take him back, and at some point he WILL do this…you stay strong. Let him fall back into the world he has chosen for himself. It’s a world that doesn’t include the joy of his family, of spirit or of substance. Your world will be very different. Take strength in that.

Again…so sorry.

Tina

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